The chief bridesmaid is a very important part of wedding planning. But more than that, she’s someone you trust to help and support you during one of the most important times of your life. You know the 9 things to ask your chief bridesmaid to do, so here are the 9 things to ask your chief bridesmaid NOT to do!
1) Panic
Being selected as the chief bridesmaid is a big responsibility, which your Chosen One should only accept if she’s up to the task. It can be a big job—she’s going to be helping you through every moment of the wedding planning. Ask her to stay calm!
2) Try and Do Too Much
Of course your chief bridesmaid wants to do a good job—the last thing she wants to do is let you down—but if she gets too stressed it can really affect how she functions. Ask her not to make herself sick!
3) Be Afraid of Asking for Help
To avoid the weight of the world on her shoulders, ask your chief bridesmaid to delegate tasks to the bridesmaids. They’re there to help, after all, and they’re at her command!
4) Get Offended
Emotions will undoubtedly run high during the wedding planning process, and the chief bridesmaid is probably your go-to person whom you can vent your feelings to. Therefore, you might sometimes snap at her for no good reason. Make sure you apologise and ask her not to take it personally—it’s probably a by-product of stress and tension, nothing more. But make sure she knows she can always talk to you if she has issues. Don’t lose a friend.
5) Fight with Other Members of the Wedding Party
There’ll be differing opinions across the wedding planning, and your chief bridesmaid might get very protective of you. She’ll fight your corner or have ideas of her own, and there’s a possibility that this will cause friction with other members of the wedding planning squad. Ask your chief bridesmaid to pick her battles wisely; sometimes the best thing to do is bite one’s tongue.
6) Reveal All in the Speech
Ask your chief bridesmaid not to deliberately embarrass you in her wedding speech. Remind her that some things are better left unsaid, like that time your dress blew up around your neck in the middle of a crowded town square.
7) Sleep with the Groomsmen
Unless she’s already in a committed relationship with one of the groomsmen, ask your chief bridesmaid to avoid getting involved with one of them until after the wedding. There’s a risk of the relationship going awry, and tensions could arise that might affect the wedding planning. Of course all brides are different—you might welcome a relationship between your best friend and your partner’s brother.
8) Get Too Drunk
Of course your chief bridesmaid should have a great time (and she’ll deserve it, too, after all of the help she’s given you!) but request that she doesn’t have so much that she’s too hung over on the day of the rehearsal dinner to stand straight when it comes to her speech. Ask her to leave the heavy partying until the actual wedding reception.
9) Underestimate How Much You Need Her
Your chief bridesmaid is probably your best friend, and sometimes she might feel like you’re taking advantage of her, or not giving her enough attention. Always make time to speak to each other, and make sure you let her know just how much you appreciate her. Ask her not to underestimate how much you need her!
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